Why The Law Of Attraction Isn't Working

Using the law of attraction to manifest what you desire can be either wonderfully easy or painfully hard depending on previous experiences with trying to use it. It seems simple enough, doesn’t it?

Like attracts like…

Ask and it is given…

Ok, so let me try this out. I like tacos. I’m open to receiving tacos….

Where are my damn tacos?!

You feel me? It seems like all I am attracting is my lack of tacos.

So why isn’t this working?

 Here are my top 5 reasons you may not be successful in attracting what you want.

1) YOU’RE NOT STARTING WHERE YOU’RE AT

I’m sure you’ve heard of positive affirmations. I personally think that they’re great. However, I’m also a big believer in personalizing your affirmations specifically to you. You must be in alignment with what you do want.  To be in alignment with your desires is not always easy.  Let's say that you have a desire to attract twenty thousand dollars but you are flat broke, most everything in your environment speaks poverty.  You may be wishing and hoping but everything in your being feels like ten dollars rather than twenty thousand dollars. 

If your affirmation is, “I am a millionaire. I attract abundance with ease. Money is constantly finding its way to me.” Well, you may be saying it, but do you believe it? I can say I believe in Santa Clause all day long, but if I can’t energetically get behind that- I’m gonna be throwing a toddler-sized tantrum full of crocodile tears come Christmas morning.

Your objective then should be to find a way to begin to find an affirmation that you can energetically get behind and start building your faith muscles from there. Let’s try to rephrase some of these statements so that we can energetically get behind them.

“I have attracted money in the past, and I know it’s entirely possible to do it again.”

“I have seen others manifest money and know that I am worthy of the same abundance too.”

“I am not in poverty. I am in a situation where money is tight which forces me to get creative in how I spend my money.  This creativity allows me to be in flow and trust the Universe.”

“I am working on freeing myself from the limiting beliefs that I’ve had about money.”

So I ask you- which one can you energetically get behind? The more you are in alignment with this energy, the more you are using the “like attracts like” to your advantage.

2) YOU HAVE A SPECIFIC TIME TABLE

I get it- when you want something; you want it on your time. Hello- tacos! Who doesn’t want those right now? But in all seriousness, if you believe in the Law of Attraction, then I know you believe that the Universe is out there conspiring FOR you, not against you. So if something isn’t happening on your timeline- there absolutely positively is a reason for it. We live in an infinite Universe with infinite possibilities. If we hold the Universe down to a time table that we think is best, we’re missing out on all of the beautiful magic we could be experiencing. Also, time holds us in the vibration of lack. We can’t be happy until (x) happens. And that feels really icky to me. If I waited until I got married, or bought my first house, or landed my dream job, or had my first baby… I’d spend most of my life unhappy until those things were here. And trust me; the Universe doesn’t want you to be unhappy all the time.

3) YOU HAVEN’T FELT INTO IT

Don’t ever under-estimate your emotions. Have you spent time feeling into what you want truly feels like? My daughter is one of the most powerful manifesting rock stars I know. She’s 15 and always seems to manifest almost anything she wants. How? She literally plays the imagination game. She imagines she actually has it and what that would feel like for her. One year, she wanted a dog. Every day she would annoy me with:

“Mom- imagine I was waking up to puppy kisses right now.”

“Mom- imagine if there was a water bowl and food bowl right here in this corner. Wouldn’t it look so cute?”

“Mom- imagine how awesome it would be to have 2 dogs on our Christmas cards this year instead of 1!”

Let me tell you, I wasn’t about to get a dog. I didn’t want one- like at all! We already had 1 big dog and a cat. Plus I had 3 girls I was taking care of- I did NOT want this dog.

But that never stopped her. She released attachment to how it would happen, what it would feel like, and the timeline didn’t matter to her. She just knew we would get her a dog eventually.

Guess what? We got the f-ing dog. I couldn’t resist the feelings she was painting out loud for me, and subconsciously I guess I wanted to feel them too. To be honest, it felt like we already had him before we actually had him. Told you- manifesting rock star that one!

4) YOU WANT IT A CERTAIN WAY

Are you tied up in the details of what you want? Let’s say you want to manifest a partner, so you start writing out a list.

He has to have:

Blonde hair

Blue eyes

At least 6 foot tall

Must love dogs and ice-cream

Arrive before my high school reunion

Here’s the thing- we live in an infinite Universe with infinite possibilities. What if the Universe had a better partner in mind? A man who not only had all those attributes but rescues turtles of the side of the road, sings like Garth Brooks, and massages your feet every night? But oh no- you only wanted what was on the list.

Take yourself out of the details! You’re not going to miss out on anything by not being specific enough. Trust me.

5) YOU’RE PUSHING AGAINST ENERGY THAT ISN’T YOURS

Unless you’ve been living under a rock, you’ve probably heard the phrase that if you want something badly enough, you’ll go out and get it. Well, that’s all well and good, but it doesn’t work for everybody. Why? We’re not robots, we’re human. All humans are different. I realize this is shocking and brand new information, so let me allow you some time to let that sink in.

So if going out and creating your destiny works for some and not others- then what are we missing?

Well, I use a system called Human Design. Human Design is a relatively new system of personality analysis that combines elements of Eastern and Western Astrology, the Chinese I’Ching, the Judaic Kabbalah (Tree of Life), the Hindu Chakra system and modern Quantum Physics. Your personal Human Design Map, calculated from your birth data, gives you very specific knowledge about how you process energy.

There are 5 basic Human Design TYPES, all of which have different ways they process energy, and manifest what they want with the least amount of resistance using their strategy. If this seems limiting, the Human Design system goes deeper than that. There are over a million different Human Design charts. A basic chart looks like this:

If this looks like hieroglyphics to you, don’t worry. That’s why I’m here. I’m a Human Design Specialist that is trained in reading your chart, knowing your energy, and telling you exactly what to do in order to use the Law of Attraction to your advantage and start manifesting the life you’ve always wanted.

Curious about what your Human Design type is? Grab a copy of your free Human Design Report here where I explain how to leverage the strengths of your design and use your strategy to your advantage.

Or if you’re totally curious about what your chart means and you want to start falling back in love with yourself all over again- you can schedule a sesh with me so we can get you back to… well, you!

Much love to you,

xo